Whatcha doin’?

I know that many have been somewhat stupefied by the limited number of posts that I’ve put out in the past few months, especially given Bud’s circumstances. I’ve been keeping it quiet because of my own insecurities, but I suppose it’s good for you to know.

In August 2017, Bud and I started talking about the idea of me getting my funeral director’s license. I did some praying and thinking. If you know me, you know that I’ve been declining this path for quite a few years. When I was homeschooling our kids, I felt like it would be too overwhelming for me to go to school as well. (Especially given that distance classes were not an option then.) After our children all left the nest, I wanted to just help in a supportive role and develop the media offerings of our funeral home.

And honestly, I’ve had to think about the physical aspects of funeral directing. I have never been drawn to sciences, particularly those that deal with the body, so this portion of the course seemed beyond my capabilities and interests.

So when Bud asked me once again if I would consider getting my license, I was the most pimssurprised to hear coming from my mouth, “Sure, I think I should do that.” So began my journey into funeral directing.

In September, I enrolled at Pittsburgh Institute of Mortuary Science.  The second week of October, classes began.

Most of my courses are distance classes. I have completed the first module and am more than half way through the second module. It has been very interesting so far; and, honestly, pretty rigorous. Each module is eight weeks and during that time two or three college-level courses are completed. The whole course will take approximately two years, so I suppose I’m well on my way.

I have also already learned a lot–about funeral directing as a career and about myself. I’ve found that, as I intimated, I do struggle with the sciences. I also have learned that I am a panic-stricken test taker! These timed tests seem to just set off my nerves!

I have also had classes that have caused me to probe the field of funeral service in ways that I never did before. These thought-provoking “philosophy” of funeral service classes have brought me more into focus about the whole field of serving our community during funerals. Perhaps I will go back over my previous assignments and share with you some of our philosophy.

Anyway, you do know about Bud’s journey; and now, you know about mine. Clarifying the timeline, I enrolled for funeral directing studies about a month before Bud was admitted to Strong Memorial. I know that it will be tempting for some to think that I chose this path because of what happened to Bud. However, the more accurate statement is that God started me in this direction before Bud’s diagnosis.

I know myself; I would not have been able to make a decision and start classes in the midst of the emotional turmoil that Bud’s circumstances placed upon me. So, God spared me that hurdle. Now, I am looking forward to being the first husband/wife licensed funeral directing team in our area. Considering how well we work together, I anticipate that my having my license in funeral directing will just make our service all the better.

Business as usual

So, progress reports come slowly. That’s the nature of the medical community.  In a few weeks, Bud will have another set of scans to update the report.

In the meantime, it is basically “business as usual.” Bud returned to Wellsville Central School as a bus driver. He has only ever been a morning driver. This has been a great schedule for him because he is a morning person by nature and that time of day is rarely interrupted by other events. We believe it has been a help to the school as well. Have you heard how difficult it is to get drivers? If you have the right license, maybe you’d like to help out a school.

Anyway, he passed the required physical and he also successfully completed the safety test, so he is back on the bus!

Bud has returned to construction work as well. We have an upstairs office that he is working on. Most recently, he has spent time at our church helping to tape the drywall. This is a job that he does not like to do, but he is good at it. So, he has volunteered there a bit.

And, of course, you see him around town visiting with various people. If you see him, 02-16-18 business as usualstop and say “Hi!” He’s always glad to take a few minutes and shoot the breeze. Last night, we celebrated my mother’s birthday at Beef Haus. And we saw several of you there! What a great time to connect!

So, everything is running as it should.

We know that you have choices in Wellsville for funeral services. We are always honored to serve your family. We are quite capable of assisting you through this very difficult time. We have recently added an amazing space that offers a level of service and comfort never before seen in the Wellsville area. Many people look at this space and believe that we are no longer affordable. This is simply not so. We have not raised our prices since opening the doors on the Riverside Drive facility. And our prices match or are lower than other funeral homes nearby.

It is because of God’s provision, your continued confidence, and a little bit of help from Steuben Trust Bank that this addition happened. We prayed that we would be able to “pay-as-we-go” and that was almost possible. So, that is why we don’t have to pass building costs on to families who choose us.

We began this section of the blog, the cancer journey, so that we could be transparent with our community; so that you would know what is happening. The best places to get information are from this site, our Facebook page, or just give Bud a call.

The propagated rumors that say any differently than what you’ve read here or had us tell you are just not true. We welcome your questions and concerns. We also invite you to set a rumor straight if you hear something contrary.

It’s just business as usual.